Anonymous asked: is it normal to not feel right masturbating? i was using a shower head (which i read about on here) and it felt good, but i feel like i should only be having that pleasure from a guy. is that weird?
It’s not weird. It’s how you feel and there is nothing wrong with that.
That said, I want to challenge that for a minute and give you some things to think about. You don’t need to answer me, but I hope you unpack that thought process on your own for a little while.
Do you feel like you should only experience pleasure with a partner because that’s how you’ve been raised or socialized?
Does that come from a perspective of policing your sexuality in any way?
If yes to either of those answers, then let’s think about whether those are YOUR values or values that are being pressed on you. Is this an automatic response to how you’ve been taught to look at sexual pleasure or is it your decided, educated personal feelings on the subject as well?
Follow up questions/statements to those ones: do you think a partner is going to know how to pleasure you better than you could pleasure yourself?
Don’t you think it might be a good idea to learn about how you can pleasure yourself so you can help partners in the future who may not have a psychic ability to navigate your vagina on their own?
There are no wrong answers, by the way. You don’t HAVE to masturbate. And there are lots of good reasons not to, but I hope none of them are that someone else instill in you a sense of guilt that is now interfering with your personal pleasure.
“When choosing sexual partners, remember: Talent is not sexually transmittable.” - Tina Fey
YAAAASSS LADIES. PREACH.